Ever feel controlled by your moods?
Ever think…I’m not sure if I can make plans, because I don’t know what mood I will be in? Or, I’m so moody, and I can’t control my state of mind… I wonder if I’ll ever have the life I want?
There was a time in my life when I felt controlled by my moods. I felt my state of mind was something that ran me that dictated what I would or wouldn’t do, or could or couldn’t do. A, yes, to a friend’s invitation would put me in a tailspin. What if when the day rolls around I’m in a bad mood? What will I do…cancel or show up feeling miserable?
I would create so much anxiety about what mood I might be in that I’d spend countless hours in a state of concern.
Then one day a light bulb went off in my head. It was one of those miserable mood days, and I had a workshop to lead. While driving to the workshop my thoughts rattled…I don’t know how I’m going to get through this. I feel rotten. I guess I’ll have to pretend to be okay and stay focused on their needs.
And that’s just what I did! I pretended to be okay, and I stayed focused on their needs, and something happened in the pretending to be okay and focusing on their needs, I began to feel better.
I left the workshop with a smile on my face and a swing in my step. While driving home feeling really good about my act of service and noticing the change in my spirits….my thoughts went back to how miserable I felt before the workshop. Wow, what a switch!
By choosing to feel good (pretend if needed) and focusing on others, I control those little suckers. My moods ARE within my control!
I felt as if the cat had been let out of the bag (a startling secret, indeed)!
I’m grateful that I am much more balanced in my moods these days. But when I do get in a mood I know it’s time to pretend to feel better (a happy memory helps with this or sending loving thoughts to myself) and focus on others.
Moods come and moods go, and we don’t have to allow them to dictate our lives, in fact, we can even change them.
Over to you:
Do you ever feel like your moods control your life? Have you had an experience where you switched your mood and you were surprised by it…if so what helped you switch it?
Thanks for being here with me.
I appreciate your time.
In loving appreciation,